Friday, September 27, 2019

“The most desired gift of love is not diamonds, or roses, or chocolate. It’s focused attention.” - Anonymous

From “The Human Condition: A User’s Manual,” by Arnold Kunst
27 September
How to Handle a Woman: Another right way.

Your wife gets off the phone and tells you she just learned that her mother just dropped dead. Knowing that she’s an only child and all the funeral arrangements will be left to her, in the bad old days you probably would have come out with some hyper-active Fix-it gene abreaction like this: “let’s see; you’ve got to prioritize contacting the newspapers, the funeral home, the cemetery, the bank, the church, letting friends and family know.” Of course, none of that is necessary as she hangs up the phone. Besides, [hopefully] you’ve learned over the years that she’s got a more-than-healthy Fix-It gene of her own. What she needs right away is your two ears, not your big mouth. In short, you need to learn to listen. You can help her do all that prioritizing later.

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