From “The Human Condition: A User’s Manual” by Arnold Kunst
I think forgiving - the jettisoning of long-prized garbage - is like pulling weeds: it isn't something you do, and then it's done. It's something you do, and then do, and then do yet again. And don't forget the Catholic sailor who confessed to the priest that he literally had a girl in every port. When the priest asked if he was sorry, the sailor, embarrassed, admitted truthfully that he wasn't, so the priest told him wisely, "Tell God you're sorry you're not sorry, and then just assume God will understand!"