From “The Human Condition: A User’s Manual,”
by Arnold Kunst
5 December
Little Johnny
Stories III
Making
mistakes is where it’s at. For some time now little Johnny is happy to have the
increased freedom of movement that thumping and bumping around on the floor
offers him. Then gradually it dawns on his pre-speech mind that he needs to
pass on imitating the cat and the dog – his first experience with
time-and-motion. After all, cats and dogs are natural four-leggers, and it’s
becoming clear that he’s not. After all, mommy and daddy and every other person
in his world gets around on their back two, so he needs to matriculate from
four to two.
It’s not a
smooth, easy transition, of course. Consider the day that the whole family is
there, sitting in a circle for The First Few Steps: Mommy’s holding Johnny’s
little hands, and Daddy, a few feet away, says dramatically, “Ok, Johnny, come
to Daddy! Come to Daddy!”
Mommy lets go,
cameras are poised, everyone’s tingling with excitement. Then Johnny wobbles on
his bow-legs, and… FALLS!
Does Daddy
pick him up and throw him into his crib and say, “Ok, Johnny, you’ve had your
chance to walk – that’s you finished”? No! Loving the child means they'll
encourage him even when he fails in his attempts - they'll keep encouraging the
child in his efforts to walk until the child learns to walk.
Is there a
lesson there for you and me, or what?
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