30 September
From “The Human Condition: A User’s Manual,” by
Arnold Kunst
Let’s suppose you
have an argument with your girl friend and part company, at least temporarily.
You go off to the guys in the bar and start complaining about her, and first
one of them then another chimes in with something like, “Yeah, my old lady is
the very same!”
And your girl
friend goes off to her girl friends, and one after another says, “How many times
have I told you to dump that bum!”
What the two of you
should be looking for is what your friends should be offering: perspective,
even if it grates. A friend that offers objectivity at that level is worth
his/her weight in gold. A “friend” that merely validates your sense of wounded
self-pity deserves to get dumped. As the Bible says, leave the dead to bury their
dead, and move on to where there is life, even if you need to get used to the [frightening]
loneliness of doing without fair-weather friends.
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