From “The Human
Condition: A User’s Manual,” by Arnold Kunst
27 September
How to Handle a
Woman: Another right way.
Your wife gets off
the phone and tells you she just learned that her mother just dropped dead.
Knowing that she’s an only child and all the funeral arrangements will be left
to her, in the bad old days you probably would have come out with some
hyper-active Fix-it gene abreaction like this: “let’s see; you’ve got to
prioritize contacting the newspapers, the funeral home, the cemetery, the bank,
the church, letting friends and family know.” Of course, none of that is
necessary as she hangs up the phone. Besides, [hopefully] you’ve learned over
the years that she’s got a more-than-healthy Fix-It gene of her own. What she
needs right away is your two ears, not your big mouth. In short, you need to
learn to listen. You can help her do all that prioritizing later.
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